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Kary's favorite Vermont Farmhouse |
It is with a heavy heart that I write this post. Sadly, our friend Kary from
My Farmhouse Kitchen passed away on Saturday, July 28th from chemotherapy complications; she
had been diagnosed with bladder cancer last Fall.
I've tried to capture the essence of this wonderful woman and our friendship, I know I do not do her justice, I'm not a writer, I'm simply a friend, who misses her friend.
Kary and I became friends just over two years ago. My very good friend Susan at From Beyond My Kitchen Window recommended that I visit Kary’s blog. I was new to the blogging world and Susan
knew all the best blogs to visit. When I
visited Kary’s blog she had posted
First Apple Pie of the Season. Many of you know how I love to make pies, but
when I saw her pie I thought it was stunning! The crust, the latticework, the
crimping, the fluting ~ all amazing! I
recall emailing her and telling her about my family’s “Pie Day” tradition and
we became fast friends. By the end of
the month with Susan’s encouragement I was blogging!
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Kary's Apple Pie |
Kary and I continued to email back and forth daily. We chatted about everyday stuff, current
events, and what we were making for dinner!
More often than not, we discovered that our dinner menus were the same,
we thought that was so funny. How I
already miss those emails.
We felt like we were kindred spirits, she on the west coast,
me on the east coast. Our names
Kary/Mary, both born in June of the same year, me just 24 days older. Our husbands John/Ron, both born in
December. Our dogs Teddy/Duke a poodle
and a cockapoo.
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Much Loved Cookbooks |
We shared a love of our families, cooking and cookbooks - the older the better. We loved tried and true family recipes and traditions; we enjoyed gardening,
oh how she love planting her corn; we enjoyed baking and loved our pets.
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The Three Amigos, Whisky Sour, Teddy & Dande |
Kary also had two lovely kitty’s, Whisky Sour
& Dande (Dandelion), in addition to her beloved Teddy. On Tuesday I began reading Kary's blog on from the
beginning, there is so much warmth in her words. I came to her early post
about the
rug with the squirrel, I know how much she loved it, and how much she
liked squirrels, birds and all animals in general. She even had a wood
stove that was a called a squirrel stove because it had squirrels on the sides!
This past Tuesday night
I dreamt about the rug . . . I got up at 5:30 because we had to go to
Massachusetts and we wanted to leave Maine early. I opened the front door
to the porch and saw something I never see - a squirrel was walking down the
sidewalk, stopped at the top of my walkway, paused, looked at me, and then went
on. All I could think of was Kary, so I said "Hi Kary" my eyes
welled up, and then the little squirrel went on it's way . . .
Kary was genuinely kind, she reached out to many people all
over the world. She corresponded with
people in the US, Canada & Europe, and oh how much she loved my beloved New England.
If someone needed an encouraging word, she was there for him or
her. When my own mom passed away last
September, Kary sent me a lovely card and would email me to check in with
me. She knew how I felt, her own mom
had passed a few years earlier. It was
shortly after that when her problems began.
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Little Teddy, her best friend |
She thought about writing a post about what was going on
with her. She asked me what I thought,
and I suggested that she write about it when it was all behind her . . . she
liked that idea, because she didn’t want people feeling bad for her – now my
heart and countless other hearts ache because she left us so suddenly.
I had a bad feeling when I hadn’t heard back
from Kary, so I contacted her good friend of 20+ years, Julie Whitmore. When Julie told me that Kary had passed away
the night before I wept. Julie posted
about Kary this past Thursday, if you can, please visit her post
Good Night Beloved Friend to leave a
comforting comment. I can’t imagine how
Julie feels.
Kary had this lovely poem on her blog sidebar . . . I wish we had talked about it.
The Night Will Never Stay
-Eleanor Farjeon
the night will never stay,
the night will still go by,
though with a million stars
you pin it to the sky;
though you bind it with
the blowing wind,
and buckle it with the moon,
the night will slip away
like sorrow or a tune.
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Kary in Maine |
Our friend Kary is survived by her loving husband, her adorable pets, her family and her many, many friends – old and new.
Rest in Peace my
sweet friend.
Hugs,
Mary & Dukeums